I’m black, I’m a minister and I’m gay, who are you to judge?Imagine a world where people aren't defined by their deficits, but rather they are acknowledged for their aspirations, where people are in control of their narratives and are celebrated for being their authentic selves. It takes courage to grow up and become who we really are, beyond all conditioned social norms, and to stand against the tide that seeks to diminish us. In 2016, Benjamin Carlton made the brave decision to come out as a black gay minister in a theroot.com article that generated national discussion. In this talk, he’ll take you on his journey of winning his narrative through asset framing, an award-winning cognitive frame that engenders understanding, confidence, and inspires constructive action. Benjamin Carlton is an author, activist, actor, and minister. He received his MBA from Florida Agricultural & Mechanical University before moving to Miami to pursue his career in accounting. While in Miami, he co-founded the iconic BMe Community, a national movement of community builders that are led and inspired by black men. BMe Community was founded on the principles of valuing all members of the human family, recognizing black males as assets, and building more caring and prosperous communities together. Under his leadership, BMe has influenced national policy, and committed millions of dollars to local community leaders around the nation. Benjamin has more than 10 years of experience in social innovation, public relations, and social media as an executive director. His pioneering work in community building earned him a Miami Fellows Fellowship with the Miami Foundation and an AT&T Emerging Leaders Fellowship. He was a finalist for Forbes Magazine’s 30 under 30. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community